You’re not only supporting their emotions… Something in you is also being activated
When your child shows worry about the future, something shifts.
Their tone.
Their questions.
The way they look at things.
And even if you try to stay calm…
Something moves inside you too.
Unease.
Tension.
A feeling that’s hard to name.
You’re not just observing
It’s easy to think you’re simply supporting your child.
But the reality goes deeper:
Their emotion touches you too.
Not only in a logical way.
In an emotional one.
What gets activated isn’t always obvious
Sometimes it’s not just concern about the topic.
It can be something else:
- Your own uncertainty about the future
- Fear of not being able to protect them
- The feeling of not having answers
- Memories of how you experienced fear as a child
And all of that shows up… quietly.
When the adult feels overwhelmed too
Holding space for an anxious child isn’t easy.
Because it asks something demanding:
To regulate yourself while they can’t.
And if you’re already carrying a lot…
that becomes harder.
It’s not about not feeling
You can feel fear, doubt, or discomfort.
That doesn’t make you less capable.
It makes you human.
What matters is not avoiding what you feel…
but beginning to notice it.
Looking inward is part of parenting
Beyond your child’s experience, there is an opening:
to ask yourself what is being activated in you.
Not with judgment.
With curiosity.
Sometimes a simple question is enough:
"What about this is unsettling for me right now?”
When you understand yourself, you respond differently
Not because the fear disappears.
But because it stops leading your reaction without you noticing it.
And slowly, more space appears:
To pause
To choose
To respond with more clarity
You also need support
It’s not only about your child.
You matter too.
Small things can help:
- Taking short pauses
- Talking to someone you trust
- Writing what you feel
- Letting go of the need to do it perfectly
You don’t need to figure it all out today
This is not immediate.
It’s a process.
Something you begin to see, understand, and adjust over time.
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(To support yourself as you support your child.)
Closing reflection
Your child’s anxiety is not only about them.
It also touches parts of you that may not have been seen before.
And that’s not a problem.
It’s an opening.
Maybe not to do it perfectly.
But to do something more honest:
supporting your child… while learning to support yourself. 🌿
Y. Vargas. 💬💖
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